Elizabeth Brooks: Bibliophile, Libertine, Pin-Up & Phone Sex Muse.
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We tend to think of the erotic as an easy, tantalizing sexual arousal. I speak of the erotic as the deepest life force, a force which moves us toward living in a fundamental way.
Audre Lorde
Sex And The Computer
I’ve come to the conclusion that I’m a terrible blogger. Oh, I have plenty of ideas about what to blog from vintage porn to pubic hair trends and all the fun little tidbits my phone sex callers educate and inspire me with… but then the rest of the internet happens. I suppose I could pretend that my “vanilla” job as a body piercer keeps me frantically busy or that I simply cannot squeeze in a moment between steamy phone calls and my very active real sex life to write. The truth, though, is that I’m a great big fucking procrastinator. For shame, I know.
The good news? I’ve decided to share some of my favorite fetish and sex-related blogs with you, so that your spare time can be sucked into the same blissful black hole that mine is! In no particular order, here are, in my not-so-humble opinion, some of the best of the best naughty blogs out there:
Lady Cheeky’s Smut For Smarties
Happy reading!
xo,
Liz
Girls Rule, Subs Drool: 8 Things Dominant Women Want
As a disclaimer, this is not a comprehensive list of what all dominant women want. It is impossible to make a comprehensive list of what all women want, or what any other statistically significant portion of the human race wants. However, this is a starting point that illustrates some themes that might apply to a few dominant women. We’re also using male pronouns because most questions I get on this topic are from men, and because I am using a man as my primary data point. The list probably applies mostly in America, and possibly only on the coasts, and maybe even only to educated, geeky, 20-something, queer-identified dominant women. This is why we welcome reader feedback and peer review!
- The small stuff does matter.
It tells me that he is attracted to me because I’m me, not just any dominant woman. It adds a personal touch to our interactions. I like how he pays attention to my personal foibles, such as demanding to be called Doctor or Ma’am instead of Mistress, or that I really like my boots licked. Or the fact that I like tea, and how I like it served. - He makes it clear how important I am to him.
He makes room in his schedule for me. He does little things to show me that he’s been thinking about me when we aren’t together, like writing me letters or buying me little gifts. He makes me feel like he wants me by what he says, and how he acts. At the same time, he doesn’t assume that this somehow gives him a right to my time, energy, desire, or body. - I don’t have to wonder if he wants to be here.
He says please, and thank you. He is clear and honest on his boundaries. He says no, or otherwise expresses his limits. “Well, I’m happy to go shopping with you but I need to leave at 4pm,” or “I am happy to be beaten but I don’t want to do CBT play right now.” He does not pretend he does not have limits. - He does not confuse the fantasy of submission with the reality of submission.
He has a life, a career, friends, and hobbies. He is a person, with a personality outside of being a submissive. Kink is not the only thing we bond over. We can relate as equals and friends when we are not in a scene. (24/7 is a possibility, but it should not be the norm when I first start playing with someone.) We have things in common outside the dungeon. We can have a conversation, we can go to a concert, and we have friends in common. - When he serves me he actually serves me rather than his own fantasies.
If he runs errands for me, he does it right, and to the best of his abilities. He doesn’t offer to run errands for me just to get my attention, and he doesn’t mess up on purpose to make me “punish” him. He’s good at what he does, especially when what he’s doing is meant to please me. He also doesn’t use this as a bargaining chip, or as an opportunity to barter for sex. - I am not his dirty little secret.
Kink is not his dirty little secret. He should not be ashamed of his submission. I can respect the fact that he may not want to acknowledge his kink or submission in every situation, but I cannot play with someone who thinks our relationship is something wrong, shameful, or terrible. If he treats his desires for kink as wrong or shameful, what does he think of my desires for the same thing? - He understands that I have many facets.
He does not suddenly lose the ability to bottom to me because I bottomed to someone else. He doesn’t assume that because I did something with someone else I will do it with him. He understands that I have many hobbies, academic interests, and kinks, and he respects that he is part of my life, but not the sum total of my life. It helps if we met at a vanilla social function, and not at a munch, or on collarme.com, or in a dungeon. Meeting through mutual friends suggests that we have common interests outside of kink and submission. - His submission is personally meaningful.
He does not think that being a submissive means being someone other than who he is. Just as I want to be seen as a person and not as a generic Dominant Woman, I want his submission to reflect how he is a person, and not some generic Submissive Man. I want him to submit, not some cardboard cutout of a person. I want the submission to be personally meaningful, not just a rote framework copied from porn.
New Year, New Blog
Looking around the internet, I have encountered so many brilliant blogs and websites, poems and stories regarding human sexuality, phone sex, D/s relationships, and erotic hypnosis. While some reflect my own experience, many do not. I have found that the trope of the ruthless Mistress Hateful with a penchant for “punishing” her lowly minions doesn’t suit me. Despite my domineering nature, I’m a compassionate and playful girl at heart that sensual domination, domination with a firm hand rather than an iron fist, is what most excites me. I want beauty, chemistry, push and pull. I’ve always been a voracious reader, but never much of a writer and I hope to address the latter point with this blog. I plan to divulge my calls, fantasies, interests, and even some secrets. From the mild to the wild, I will document my misadventures both in real life and on the phone.
So now you’re thinking, “Sounds good, but… that doesn’t tell me anything about you!”. Let me see if I can remedy that with just a few hints. For more, you’ll either have to call me or keep checking back!
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I’m 25 years old and work part-time as a professional body piercer and phone sex operator.
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I’m 5’10” and perfectly curvy. A lady never reveals her digits, but I am extremely flexible thanks to a love of yoga.
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Books are the quickest way to my heart. I’m an absolute bibliophile and love both fiction and non-fiction.
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I simply adore both lingerie and shoes. My collections of both are shamefully extensive.
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I’m a terrible procrastinator and have often joked that laziness is just a derogatory word for efficiency.
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My favourite drink is a nice medium-bodied and fruity red wine.
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Some of my sexual interests include sensual domination, tease and denial, cuckolding, and girlfriend experience.
Where can you find me? Feel free to contact me on NiteFlirt or Twitter if you have any comments, questions or would just like to chat!
xo,
Liz
The thrill of seduction lies in the chase rather than the conquest. The excitement of wanting and pursuing someone gives a sense of satisfaction in itself. Those who thoroughly enjoy the chase are people with plenty of self-confidence and their belief in themselves increases the likelihood of success.
David Le Mare
That is part of the beauty of all literature. You discover that your longings are universal longings, that you’re not lonely and isolated from anyone. You belong.
F. Scott Fitzgerald (via paperimages)
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